You.Deserve.Love. We all are deserving of love. We all deserve to have someone adore us, and to spend as much time thinking about us as we think about them. We deserve to be respected, to be valued, to be thought about.
Just because the last one you gave your heart to- the last one that you trusted with your most valuable secrets- broke your trust and your heart, doesn’t mean that this one will. Or even if they will, it doesn’t mean that the next one will.
Stop blaming yourself for the failures of your past relationships. Stop thinking about them at all. Yes, you loved them. And they probably loved you. But those relationships didn’t work out, and that wasn’t because you were too needy, or because you shared too much, or because you treated them like you expected to be treated. They didn’t work out because they were not the right one for you.
Stop worrying that it is a character flaw. Stop fighting your natural instincts to play some game. Realize that you are who you are, and the right person will contact you as much as you contact her- not because she is playing a game, but because she WANTS to contact you, she wants to be with you, she wants to hear what you have to say.
The RIGHT man? The Right relationship? You will not be able to make mistakes to wreck that one. So if you make mistakes and they cause something to not work between now and the right one, those are mistakes that will be made. But do not be so fearful to make a mistake that you stop living, that you stop being yourself. Because the people in your life now are the ones who matter, and they like you the way you are. The sometimes neurotic overthinker, the romantic, the optimist, the sarcastic bitch. They like you and she will like you for those same reasons.
Fuck your fears. Fuck your thoughts in the back of your mind that are never quite sure if you really are worth it- if anyone will really be willing to stick it out and be with you for the long haul.
Always remember that you deserve love.